23 And Stuck in a Rut: My Quarter-Life Crisis Defined
Some days I feel really good about my life and then other days I just want to pull my hair out. I can’t even enjoy the happiest time of my life because I am literally going through a mid-life crisis in my twenties. Come to find out, I’m actually having a quarter-life crisis and I’m not alone. I am really hard on myself but I know I’m not where I want to be in life. Every time things are going great and I feel like I have finally conquered something, I hit another roadblock. I feel like I keep hitting the reset button on my life and getting nowhere fast. I try to remain positive and not wallow in self-pity but I must admit I am overwhelmed with life.
I finally know what I want out of life but how to obtain it is the question. I took a year away from college to discover my passion. And I found that my passion is writing and I love writing and I have been writing for a very long time. Like I stated earlier, I am hard on myself and I don’t ever feel my work is good enough. I am getting over my fears so I can live out my dreams.
My layoff has me thinking a lot about my life and what I want out of my life. My last job wasn’t great but I settled because I needed a job. I’m at the point in my life where a stable job and paycheck would be nice but I don’t want to settle with anything just because of those factors. I have no clue where I’m headed and I have written down so many plans and now I no longer want to plan. I feel I’m not in control of my life and whatever happens happens. I’m young and I have a child but I haven’t stopped dreaming or believe my life is on hold. I can still pack up and move to the next opportunity if I wanted. Of course, I have to be smart and save but I still have endless opportunities.
Some people make it seem that once you have a child or two at this age that the world completely stops and you have to settle. I don’t believe that to be true. It might take you a little longer to get things done but it can still get done. I am still pursing my Bachelor’s Degree after 4 colleges and 3 major changes later. I feel with school that I am on the right track and that is the only aspect of my life that is not completely in shambles.
I don’t know what I want to do anymore when it comes to a career. I have had a chance to be home for the summer just to enjoy life and being on my own clock. I loved having the freedom to create at any time of the day and not waiting to get home from work to actually work on my blog and my writing. I know I must go back to work just to make a living but I am really not looking forward to it.
Though my life is in shambles, I do have some helpful tips to get through your quarter life crisis.
1. Keep yourself grounded and do not be hasty to make a lot of decisions at once. Set realistic goals and make a plan on how you will achieve such goals.
2. Be patient with yourself and your journey. Realize that not everything can be fixed overnight.
3. It’s okay not to be okay as long as you don’t stay in that place for too long and wallow in self-pity.
4. Do not compare yourself to those around you. Focus on your own journey and the things you want to accomplish.
5. Do not be deceived by social media. What glitters is not always gold.
6. Do not be afraid to take a risk, a calculated risk. You don’t want to look back on your life and wish you did things that you didn’t. Travel the world, move to that new city for the job you wanted or whatever it is that you want to do, don’t be afraid to do it.
7. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, figure out the root case of that feeling. Find out what is making you unhappy and make a change.
8. Get yourself a planner and a journal. I recently bought these two things and though I’m not planning every aspect of my life right now, it’s nice to jot down notes about my future and feel organized with my planner.
I hope this blog helps anyone that feels that they are stuck in a rut! I promise it will get better and everything always works out in the end. Though I’m still working through things in my life, I do see the light at the end of the tunnel. Remain positive and be patient with your journey.