There’s Beauty in the Struggle | Five Tips For Those Going Through A Tough Time
This blog is for everyone going through a tough time right now!
I watch the news and things like Covid-19 diagnosis, evictions and food scarcity catch my attention the most.
About a year ago, I wrote a blog that said my life was falling apart. I had no idea where my journey was headed.
Well, the journey lead to us having to move with nowhere to go and we have been at a hotel for almost a year trying to get back on our feet. The pandemic only heightened our struggles and left it even harder to find a place.
As I see people on the news say they have never been through things like this, my heart breaks for them. I’ve hit rock bottom so many times in my life. I’ve had to start over so many times in my life. I have learned to find the beauty in the struggle and always see the positive in things.
When you’re first going through things, you feel defeated and mad as hell. You feel like life isn’t fair and that you don’t deserve it. You might even feel worthless and like no one understands what you’re going through. I went through all of these same feelings. I cried a lot and went through a period of darkness.
Then, there was a day that came where we didn’t have money for the room and we were so afraid of being on the streets. At the time we didn’t have a car so it was a scary time for us. I did something I hardly do and that’s ask for help. I wrote a Facebook post asking for help. And someone did help my family and pay the weekly rate for us. This person also taught me how to speak life into my life, see things differently and view my struggles differently. She prayed for me and my family and taught me to do the same. And so many people have helped us along the way and I don’t feel so alone on this journey.
I have five tips I want to offer to people going through a tough time right now.
1. It’s okay not to be okay. It’s okay to be in your feelings at times. Take time to grieve for your old life and prepare for the new life that’s ahead. As long as you don’t stay down for too long, you’re allowed to feel however you want. You don’t have to fake the funk or pretend to be happy. Don’t feel guilty for having bad days. Take it day by day and know that everyday may not be great but greater days are always ahead.
2. Keep a Journal. This one has helped me a lot. I used to vent to social media but people typically don’t understand and a journal is just the best place to put all of those raw emotions, thoughts and feelings. You’ll be able to get out whatever you’re feeling and let go of all of the negative energy.
3. Ask for help. Seek out resources. Don’t suffer in silence. You don’t have to go through things alone if you’re just willing to reach out. This was probably the hardest thing for us to do but we found great organizations that help people in our unique situation and people that I never expected to reach out and help were able to do so.
4. Find things that lift your spirits. It could be as simple as getting a sketchbook and drawing. It could be cooking, playing mobile games, writing or anything. When you’re feeling down, you want to be able to do something that makes you happy or makes you smile. Even though our kitchen area is small with one working eye and no oven, cooking has been one way to lift my spirits.
5. See the beauty in the struggle. You might be wondering what’s good about your present situation. But, it’s important to remain optimistic and to always see the good. Always speak lifeThose little moments that make you smile, that make you laugh and make you forget that you’re struggling at all are the best moments. There’s always good, it’s just up to you to see it.
Those five tips have helped me a lot and I hope they help you as well. I’m currently in between blessings. My life isn’t falling apart, it’s coming together. I know that brighter days are ahead because I lived through so many dark days and the sun always shined the next day. I’m currently trusting the process and praying my way through my storm. I pray if you’re going through a tough time now that you get through it and see the beauty in your struggle.
There’s beauty in my struggle. My kids have kept a smile on their faces and an upbeat attitude through it all. They even had a chance to plant seeds which was a cool experience for them. We’ve celebrated birthdays and holidays in this cramped hotel room. We have created so much from videos, blogs and now recently the Art Shop. Because I choose to see the beauty and not the struggle, I feel better about life and feel that it will all work out.
What advice would you give someone going through a tough time?
Catch you on the next blog!
There’s beauty in the struggle, it’s up to you to see it.Joshlyn Nicole